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Thanks to the excesses of the #MeToo movement, sexual encounters have morphed into an episode of South Park. In the midst of an otherwise romantic night, gals, you might be asked to create a so-called “consent video” so your understandably petrified partner can cover his behind against any future false accusation leveled against him.

A consent video is exactly what it sounds like: a woman telling a camera lens that she is fully onboard with having sex with so-and-so once the record button is turned off.

And they say romance is dead.

According to a recent article from the Evening Standard, consent videos are becoming a popular trend in the world of hook-ups. Writer Rachel King recalled a recent night she spent with a man she knew fairly well at his London flat. At around 3:30 a.m., while she “sat astride him,” the man grabbed his phone and asked her to make a consent video:

“Could you really quickly just say that you want to have sex with me?” he said, holding the phone out, wide-eyed and earnest, his Voice Notes app open as if he was poised for some kind of chatty red-carpet interview.

“What?” I said, blinking.

“Could you just say that you consent to having sex with me?”

Another women known as “Poppy,” a “friend of a friend” of King’s, had a similar experience with a semi-famous male:

When they arrived in his room … Mr Low Key Famous explained that his contract was very strict and she would need to record a video of herself giving consent. He asked her to state her full name, that she was there of her own accord and that she consented to having sex with him.

“To be honest, it made me feel a bit like a smash-and-dash,” says Poppy. She is, however, clear that apart from that, this the guy was lovely. “He wasn’t pushy about it at all. It was something I wanted to do, and when I spoke to him about it afterwards, he was so nice about it.”

Legally, a consent video would not necessarily give a man blanket coverage cornering an accusation of sexual misconduct, since certain sex acts might not be “covered” in the consent video and consent can be withdrawn at any time, post-consent video included. “Consent is ongoing and can be withdrawn at any time. Therefore, a video may record ‘consent’ but the situation may then change and consent is withdrawn,” Durham University law professor Clare McGlynn told Refinery29. A consent video, though, would be viewed as a piece of evidence, legal experts told the outlet.

But aside from the legal aspects, feminists are not pleased with the idea of consent videos and their “problematic” ramifications.

In the case with Poppy, King complains that the “implication” of a consent video “is that those in a position of power are the ones who need protection, and that’s just not true.”

King, who mocked that “it’s apparently ‘a scary time for young men,'” also emphasized that false accusations just don’t happen, pointing to a popularized hashtag on Twitter as evidence. “In reality, the vitriol that victims of rape and sexual assault are subject to is enough to put anyone off making a false report. If you don’t believe me, check out the #WhyIDidntReport tag on Twitter,” she wrote.

“So what’s the easiest way not to need that consent recording?” King posed, before offering her brilliant solution: “Just don’t rape someone.”

Katie Russell, a spokesperson for Rape Crisis, said the concept of consent videos “is ‘deeply troubling’ and perpetuates the lie that most reports of sexual assault are false.”

Of course, if the hook-up culture were bypassed entirely and sex was not treated as a strictly physical act void of all meaning and feeling (which it’s not; that’s why all this consent stuff is so blurry and fuzzy), then consent videos wouldn’t have to be a norm.

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10 Comments

10 Comments

  1. James Kelly

    December 7, 2018 at 3:10 am

    “Katie Russell, a spokesperson for Rape Crisis, said the concept of consent videos “is ‘deeply troubling’ and perpetuates the lie that most reports of sexual assault are false.””

    Seems enough are.

    • Grace Joy

      December 7, 2018 at 3:20 pm

      Yes, enough are. Perhaps she’s “troubled” because she’ll lose a bunch of potential business. No fear for her, though: They made it clear that a woman can make a consent video; & then withdraw her consent any time after that.

  2. Crystal Fenton

    December 7, 2018 at 3:15 am

    #MeToo got a little carried away, so Feminists may not be happy about it, but they created this situation!

  3. pjt

    December 7, 2018 at 3:48 am

    I think that’s a great idea. And the feminists thought they were in control!

  4. Henry Fechner

    December 7, 2018 at 4:26 am

    Sad part of this is it won’t work because even though she consented to having sex with him all she has to do is say I told him to stop and he didn’t. He raped me!

  5. Moracle

    December 7, 2018 at 5:20 am

    The easiest way to avoid these false accusations is to only have sex with someone you are legally and lawfully wedded to…. It also keeps you on the right side of the Supreme giver of laws, even God, Himself…!

    • Mary Murphy

      December 7, 2018 at 2:42 pm

      AMEN!! I believe it should be that way anyway. I think recreational sex, at least for a women, is emotionally damaging, especially if it accidentally leads to a pregnancy, which it most definitely can!

  6. the grey man.

    December 7, 2018 at 6:34 am

    so, they lauded it when californication demanded written consent forms be filled out.
    suddenly men go yeah, good idea, go one better and make them do a video, before and after.
    now the same people who thought they had men completely screwed are up in arms that men are using their own weapons against them.
    I love the hysterics of the npcs.

  7. Mary L McClane

    December 7, 2018 at 1:40 pm

    So, this is where we are in society. I prefer the olden ways when sex was spontaneous and mutual and sexy. This is just nasty. I hope all those women who brought this on themselves never get laid again!

  8. Synickel

    December 7, 2018 at 5:50 pm

    How about saving it for marriage, you idiots.

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